Love & Relationships

            Alright, I know. The most debated, discussed and worn out topic in the world. And I am not talking about love for parents and children. It’s like been there, done that, time and again. But I still got things to say.

Love – the most misinterpreted feeling in the world. How many number of times do people confuse so many other things with love? Crush, infatuation, lust, obsession…there are so many wide range of feelings and emotions that people confuse with being in love. Mostly they just don’t know the difference. Other times they are so obsessed with the concept of love that they start to imagine they are in love. Sometimes they just need someone to accept them and care for them and wherever they get the attention they delude themselves to thinking that it’s love.

So, I ask you the oldest question in the history of time. What is love? The Oxford dictionary defines love as, “a strong emotion of affection and personal attachment.” But if you ask me, the Oxford dictionary couldn’t have been more wrong.

Love, according to me, is an emotion that can never be put into words. Unless you’ve been in love you can never understand what it is. Love is not just affection and attachment though I agree there’s plenty of that too. Love is understanding, respect, care, support, trust and selflessness. Love is not allowing your ego to come between the two of you. It’s about ‘us’ and not ‘you’ or ‘me’.

I recently attended a lecture by a psychiatrist on this very topic – What is love? And what all she said was damn true. But what she said about long distance relationships? Not so much. Whether a long distance relationship works or not depends on the people involved. It depends on their understanding of each other and their willingness to make it work. As they say, where there is a will, there is a way. Who said you need to look into each other’s eyes everyday or spend hours together or that you need to see each other every day to make it work? I mean that doesn’t bring into your relationship all those necessary things like understanding and respect.

Relationships are very fragile. One wrong move and you could destroy everything. Besides it’s the 21^st century. You need to be practical rather that believe in the fairy tale love with ‘happily ever after’ endings. Sure, you’ll get your happily ever after but it won’t be the end. You’ll always need to work on your relationship.

Love may be slow and warm that’s as easy as breathing or it may be hot and passionate that leaves your head reeling and takes your breath away. There is nothing in love that’s platonic. If it’s platonic, it’s not love. But in the end, love is what makes the world goes round.